Where Attachment Deepens Into Honesty, Accountability & Real Growth

The Integrated Growth Approach™ helps therapists bring depth, clarity, and sustainability to their work with couples.
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 If you love the depth of couples work but sometimes find it draining or directionless, you’re not alone.

 

Does this sound like you? 
  • You want to work with couples, but when you do, you sometimes feel overwhelmed, lost or stuck.
  • You've done various couples therapy trainings and workshops, like EFT and RLT, yet you're unsure how to bring all those learnings together in a way that feels cohesive and authentic to you. It can feel like throwing spaghetti at the wall and hoping something sticks! 
  • You want to break the pattern of exhausting, one-sided sessions - often working harder than your clients to improve their relationship. 
  • Despite your dedication and training, you know in your gut that something's missing - there must be a more grounded, effective way to navigate those recurring moments that leave you spinning your wheels. 
  • You long for a clear process that keeps you in the driver's seat, without losing empathy, presence or balance along the way. 
  • When you apply what you've learned, you often find that models either feel too rigid, complex, or not quite aligned with the couples in front of you. 

 I've been there!

Having dedicated my practice to working almost exclusively with couples, I understand the feelings of discouragement, frustration, and confusion that can arise. The Integrated Growth Approach™ was born from my extensive training in the most renowned couples therapy modalities and identifying countless opportunities to thoughtfully integrate interventions that drive meaningful change.

 This training was designed to transform the way you practice couples therapy—by breaking down the artificial divide between emotional attunement and personal growth. Grounded in the complementary strengths of attachment and accountability, it gives you a clear, structured, and dynamic framework for helping couples grow together without losing themselves.

 In the Integrated Growth Approach™ the work begins by cultivating honesty, accountability, and alignment with one’s core values—restoring self-connection as the foundation for growth. From that anchored place, we turn toward relationship, building bonds that can hold truth, difference, and real intimacy without losing the self for truly expansive relationships.

In just a few weeks, you'll be able to...

  • Be clear and confident about why your couple is stuck and how their individual growth will create change
  • Unlike models that prioritize either emotional safety or independence, IGA shows how both can coexist to create relationships that are both secure and alive.   
  • Precisely know when and how to galvanize the unique strengths of attachment and differentiation without losing your balance.
  • Work with motivated and engaged couples who want to do their part to improve their relationship.
  • Have a community of like-minded and supportive colleagues who are passionate about working with couples in an integrated way.
INTRODUCING

The Integrated Growth Approach

A Masterclass in Attachment & Differentiation for Couples Therapy

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Are You Ready To Feel Energized Working With Couples?

This masterclass includes 7 pre-recorded, focused modules along with 6 live meetings to deepen your knowledge (including two 90 minute meetings to apply the learnings to your actual cases). This course will provide a dynamic framework and tools so that you can: 

  • Track your couples' negative cycle while promoting individual growth and coach essential communication skills that foster healthy connection.
  • Clearly conceptualize your cases through the lenses of attachment & differentiation in ways you never thought possible.
  • Maximize your intake paperwork for more focused sessions.
  • Establish a strong foundation for the couples therapy process with a structured assessment that ensures you won't work harder than your clients. 

 

Your Transformation Starts Here

This course is for therapists and coaches who are ready to stop spinning their wheels and start leading couples toward sustainable change. If you’ve ever felt drained by your couples therapy sessions, unsure how to balance attachment and differentiation in your approach, or just want a clearer, more effective framework for helping couples—this masterclass is for you!

 Step into the next level of your practice. Lead with confidence. Help couples thrive. And love your work again. 

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What's Included In

The Integrated Growth Approach Masterclass

MODULE 1

Objectives & Considerations

Connect with the objectives of this training and the fundamentals of working with couples:

  • Sociocultural considerations 
  • Self-of-therapist awareness 
  • Limitations of couples therapy
MODULE 2

The Road to The Integrated Growth Approach

Deep dive into attachment & differentiation - the building blocks of the Integrated Growth Approach: 

  • Thorough overview of attachment & differentiation theories for couples therapy
  • How they converge & diverge
  • How to think about integration in a way that works for you
MODULE 3

The Integrated Growth Approach

Root into the core principles of IGA and its unique perspective

  • Crystalize the foundational principles & theory of change
  • Ground into the therapist stance & its evolutions
  • Feel supported by a clear process through four phases
MODULE 4

Questionnaire & Case Conceptualization

Maximize your questionnaire and begin conceptualizing your cases with three case study examples:

  • Review the anatomy of a strong questionnaire
  • Conceptualize your cases through attachment & differentiation 
  • Set a vision for how you'll leverage attachment & differentiation in your sessions
MODULE 5

Phase 1: Assessment Sessions

Start off on a strong foot with a thorough assessment period to ensure a collaborative process that seeds growth:

  • Structure and specific focus of assessment sessions 
  • Highlight underlying objectives for long term growth
  • Promote client mobilization toward individual goals & shared vision
MODULE 6

Phases 2-3: Turning Insight Into Action

Be empowered with a roadmap to growth and zoom into the critical moments for integration

  • Tracking the couple's negative cycle without losing individual growth
  • Promote differentiation skills required for strong communication
  • Capture & leverage the unique opportunities for integration
MODULE 7

Phase 4: Consolidation & What's Next

Consolidate the work by championing continued intentionality. And get a preview into Level 2 consultation group.

  • Facilitate reflection and support autonomous communication
  • End the process with intention
  • Find out about Level 2 - consultation group
NICE TO MEET YOU

I'm Ebru Halper, 

 I’m a licensed psychotherapist, educator, and founder of the Integrated Growth Approach™—a framework that brings clarity, depth, and structure to the art of couples therapy. I run a thriving private practice in Connecticut and New York, specializing in all aspects of relational work, including intensive weekends for couples. I also supervise and consult for therapists across the country, helping them deepen their clinical skill and confidence.

My path to creating the Integrated Growth Approach™ was anything but straightforward. I was deeply moved by the emotional power of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), yet even after certification, I often felt depleted—working harder than my clients, carrying the emotional weight of the room, and watching them circle the same patterns. My empathy was deep, but it wasn’t enough to create sustainable change.

Exploring the Developmental Model, Relational Life Therapy, and the work of Esther Perel helped me see how accountability and self-definition deepen intimacy rather than threaten it. But something still felt missing—I needed a way to bring those truths into balance with the safety of attachment work.

The Integrated Growth Approach™ grew out of that tension—not as a blend, but as a cohesive model that unites both emotional depth and personal integrity. The work begins by cultivating honesty, accountability, and alignment with one’s core values—restoring self-connection as the foundation for growth. From that anchored place, we turn toward relationship, building bonds that can hold truth, difference, and real intimacy without losing the self. 

Through this model, I help therapists guide couples through meaningful, lasting change—balancing empathy with structure, compassion with challenge, and connection with differentiation. The result is a process that’s transformative for clients and sustainable for therapists.

I look forward to sharing this work with you.

Michael Mondoro, LCSW

Trauma and Trauma-Related Dissociation Specialist
Certified AEDP Therapist, Supervisor, and AEDP Institute Trainer and Presenter

(New York, NY)


Ebru is a visionary in the field of couples therapy. She has the rare ability to bring together deep emotional attunement with directness and sharp clinical insight, making her work profoundly impactful.

Her Integrated Growth Approach program is a testament to her innovative thinking—seamlessly integrating attachment-based couples therapy with differentiation systems-based models to foster both connection and autonomy in relationships. Ebru has a gift for translating complex clinical concepts into a clear, accessible, and deeply transformative framework.

Beyond her intellectual and clinical brilliance, she brings warmth, clarity, and an unwavering respect for the human experience. Whether as a clinician, client, or collaborator, anyone who has the opportunity to work with Ebru will find themselves challenged, supported, and profoundly enriched by her expertise.

 

Eve Hornstein, LMFT

Relationship & Trauma Therapist

(Florida + Connecticut)

For over ten years, Ebru and I have been collaborating on shared cases together, which has been invaluable to my growth and development as a therapist. She’s sharp, thoughtful, and always pushing herself to learn more—never settling for easy answers when a case calls for deeper thinking. Her ability to integrate attachment and differentiation keeps our conversations dynamic, always leading to fresh insights and actionable steps. But beyond her clinical skill, what stands out most is how much she truly cares—about the work, about growth, and most of all, about providing the highest quality care.

 

Karen Michelson, LPC

Couples Therapy Specialist

(Boulder, CO)

I have known Ebru for 15 years and it was clear to me from the beginning that she is an exceptional therapist. Having been in supervision groups and peer consultation groups with her over the years, and in regular individual consultation on various cases, I so appreciate her warmth, wisdom, and encouragement. I learn something from her in every interaction we have. She has keen intuition, an ability to get to the heart of the matter, seeing opportunities for developing a client’s insight, vulnerability, and growth, and suggests strategies to get there. At the same time, Ebru is humble and curious, open to other peoples’ perspectives, as she is always wanting to learn and grow. I am so excited for this training she has developed and I am confident that it will provide therapists a wealth of knowledge and strategies to strengthen their work with couples.

 

Lesley Alderman, LCSW

Interpersonal Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist & Journalist

(Brooklyn, NY)

Ebru is a caring, creative and wise therapist. I’ve known her for nearly a decade and have always been impressed by her intelligence and her curiosity about the therapy process. Working with couples can be a challenge, but also incredibly rewarding. This course is thorough, concise and insightful, bringing together the best of two powerful therapy modalities. 

 

What Makes This Course Unique?

  • The clearest, most dynamic way to bring emotional depth and personal accountability together in couples therapy.

  • Taking you out of theory and into practice, this course precisely shows you when and how to integrate these otherwise divergent orientations. 

  • You’ll not only help couples grow, but you’ll learn to lead sessions with clarity and grounded energy—without carrying their emotional burden

  • In just eight weeks you will be empowered with critical frameworks and tangible tools to work with couples regardless of your level of experience.
  • The training is a combination of pre-recorded modules and live meetings, so that you can learn at your own pace while deeply assimilating the new insights.

Join the Waitlist for January 2026

 Enrollment for Fall 2025 cohort has closed.

 Join the next cohort of therapists redefining what it means to work with couples with confidence, clarity, and heart.

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